Sunday, July 20, 2025

The Path to a Broken Heart and a Contrite Spirit

In the teachings of The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints, the invitation to offer a "broken heart and a contrite spirit" is a central tenet of the gospel of Jesus Christ. This offering, which replaced the ancient practice of animal sacrifice, is a deeply personal and spiritual process of submitting one's will to God, fostering humility, and experiencing sincere repentance.

I. Understanding the Core Principles

A. What is a Broken Heart?

Church leaders have clarified that a broken heart is not a state of being emotionally shattered in a negative sense, but rather a heart that is humbled, meek, and receptive to the will of God. It is a heart that has shed its pride and stubbornness. Elder Bruce D. Porter, in a 2007 General Conference address, taught that a broken heart is one that is "completely open to the Spirit of God and recognize[s] our dependence on Him for all that we have and all that we are." I personally like the analogy of a horse being broken; when broken, it allows a saddle, bridle, reins, and a rider to control its actions [see the following video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=eHwGWBJyMSg ].

B. What is a Contrite Spirit?

A contrite spirit is described as a spirit that is penitent, teachable, and obedient. It is the disposition to feel godly sorrow for one's sins and a sincere desire to forsake them. Elder D. Todd Christofferson explained that a contrite spirit is an "obedient spirit." This state of being allows an individual to be molded and guided by the Lord.

C. The New and Higher Sacrifice

Following His resurrection, the Savior declared to the Nephites, "And ye shall offer for a sacrifice unto me a broken heart and a contrite spirit" (3 Nephi 9:20). This new law elevated the focus of worship from an outward ordinance to an inward transformation. Instead of the blood of an animal, the Lord asks for the "whole souls" of His children (Omni 1:26).

II. The Pathway to a Broken Heart and a Contrite Spirit

Based on the counsel of modern prophets and apostles, the following steps outline the process of developing a broken heart and a contrite spirit:

A. Cultivate Humility

Acknowledge Dependence on God: Recognize that all strength, blessings, and progress come from God. This involves a conscious effort to "walk humbly" before Him (Doctrine and Covenants 11:12).
Forsake Pride: Pride is the primary obstacle to a broken heart. It manifests as self-sufficiency, a desire for control, and a resistance to counsel. Overcoming pride requires prayerful introspection and a willingness to see oneself as God sees them.

B. Experience Godly Sorrow for Sin

Honest Self-Evaluation: Engage in sincere and regular self-assessment to recognize personal sins and shortcomings. This is not about self-loathing, but about an honest desire for improvement.
Focus on the Savior's Atonement: Ponder the immense suffering of Jesus Christ in Gethsemane and on the cross. This contemplation naturally leads to a sense of sorrow for sins that made such a sacrifice necessary. As Elder D. Todd Christofferson taught, "True repentance is not superficial."

C. Surrender Your Will to God

"Thy Will Be Done": The essence of a broken heart and a contrite spirit is aligning one's will with God's will. This involves a daily decision to "let God prevail" in all aspects of life, as President Russell M. Nelson has emphasized.
Obedience to Commandments: A willingness to keep the commandments is a tangible expression of a submitted will. It is through obedience that we demonstrate our love for the Lord and our desire to be like Him.

D. Embrace Gratitude

Recognize the Hand of the Lord: Actively look for and acknowledge God's influence in your life. Gratitude softens the heart and dispels feelings of entitlement or complaint.
Express Thanks in Prayer: Regularly express heartfelt thanks to Heavenly Father for His Son, Jesus Christ, and for all blessings, both temporal and spiritual.

E. Partake of the Sacrament Worthily

A Weekly Renewal: The ordinance of the sacrament provides a weekly opportunity to renew covenants and to offer a broken heart and a contrite spirit. During this sacred time, individuals can reflect on their discipleship and recommit to following the Savior.

III. The Blessings of This Sacred Offering

The scriptures and teachings of modern prophets promise significant blessings to those who offer this sacrifice:

The Companionship of the Holy Ghost: "And whoso cometh unto me with a broken heart and a contrite spirit, him will I baptize with fire and with the Holy Ghost" (3 Nephi 9:20).
Access to the Atonement's Power: Lehi taught that the Savior's Atonement is efficacious for "all those who have a broken heart and a contrite spirit" (2 Nephi 2:7).
Spiritual Peace and Joy: A heart that is yielded to God experiences a profound peace and joy that the world cannot offer.
Sanctification and Purification: Through this process, individuals are cleansed, purified, and made more holy.

In conclusion, the path to a broken heart and a contrite spirit is a continuous journey of becoming more Christ-like. It requires faith, humility, repentance, surrender, and gratitude. It is the very essence of true discipleship and the gateway to receiving the fullness of the blessings available through the Atonement of Jesus Christ. It is a sacrifice that leads not to brokenness, but to wholeness in Him.

Saturday, December 2, 2017

What Do You Thirst For?

Happiness, healing, knowledge, or truth?

Living Water by Simon Dewey

Jesus is the living water. He should always be the primary source we seek for happiness, healing, knowledge, and truth. We are his instruments on earth to help and serve each other. An individual who has helped me much in my life is Dr. Jonathan Sandberg. I was a client of his when I lived in upstate New York. The following is a link to a talk he gave; at the end of his talk is a list of valuable resources.

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Tuesday, November 8, 2016

Fourth Floor, Last Door

God “rewards those who earnestly seek him,”

so we need to keep knocking.

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Monday, November 7, 2016

Rise Up in Strength, Sisters in Zion

"It will take concerted effort to be converted and to keep our covenants.

There are three areas I believe are foundational to strong testimonies and that I consider to be essential to our understanding.

First, we need to acknowledge the centrality of God our Eternal Father and His Son, Jesus Christ, to our faith and salvation. Jesus Christ is our Savior and Redeemer. We need to study and understand His Atonement and how to apply it daily; repentance is one of the greatest blessings each of us has to stay on course. We need to see Jesus Christ as our primary role model and the example of who we need to become. We need to continually teach our families and classes about our Father’s great plan of salvation, which includes the doctrine of Christ.

Second, we need to understand the need for the restoration of the doctrine, organization, and keys of authority in these latter days. We need to have a witness that the Prophet Joseph Smith was divinely chosen and appointed by the Lord to bring about this restoration and recognize that he organized the women of the Church after the organization that existed in Christ’s Church anciently.

And third, we need to study and understand temple ordinances and covenants. The temple holds a place at the very center of our most sacred beliefs, and the Lord asks that we attend, ponder, study, and find personal meaning and application individually. We will come to understand that through the ordinances of the temple, the power of godliness is manifest in our lives and that because of temple ordinances, we can be armed with God’s power, and His name will be upon us, His glory round about us, and His angels have charge over us. I wonder if we are fully drawing upon the power of those promises." -- Bonnie L. Oscarson

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Monday, October 24, 2016

The Master Healer

You don’t have to experience the sorrow caused by sin, the pain caused by others’ actions, or the painful realities of mortality—alone.

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Friday, May 15, 2015

The Music of the Gospel

It takes diligent practice to perform beautiful music.

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Wednesday, May 13, 2015

Therefore They Hushed Their Fears

The only thing we have to fear is fear itself.

Perfect love casteth out all fear.

-- Moroni 8:16

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But can we hush the fears that so easily and frequently beset us in our contemporary world? The answer to this question is an unequivocal yes. Three basic principles are central to receiving this blessing in our lives:

(1) look to Christ,

(2) build upon the foundation of Christ, and

(3) press forward with faith in Christ.

Tuesday, May 12, 2015

Why Marriage, Why Family

Westminster Abbey - 20th Century Martyrs

"Many things are good, many are important,

but only a few are essential."

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The Family: A Proclamation to the World
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At least four things are needed for the success of the divine plan:
1. The Creation.
2. The Fall.
3. The Atonement.
4. Physical birth and Spiritual rebirth.

Monday, May 11, 2015

Why Marriage and Family Matter—Everywhere in the World

"The entire theology of our restored gospel centers on families

and on the new and everlasting covenant of marriage."

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Saturday, May 9, 2015

Choose to Believe

Sailor Gutzler

“For every one that asketh, receiveth;

and he that seeketh, findeth;

and to him that knocketh, it shall be opened.”

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Friday, May 8, 2015

The Parable of the Sower

The Sower, June 1888, Kröller-Müller Museum - Vincent van Gogh

The parable of the sower is one of a small number of parables reported in all three of the synoptic Gospels. It is also one of an even smaller group of parables Jesus explained to His disciples. The seed that was sown was “the word of the kingdom” (Matthew 13:19), “the word” (Mark 4:14), or “the word of God” (Luke 8:11)—the teachings of the Master and His servants.

The different soils on which the seeds fell represent different ways in which mortals receive and follow these teachings. Thus the seeds that “fell by the way side” (Mark 4:4) have not reached mortal soil where they might possibly grow. They are like teachings that fall upon a heart hardened or unprepared. I will say nothing more of these. My message concerns those of us who have committed to be followers of Christ. What do we do with the Savior’s teachings as we live our lives?

The parable of the sower warns us of circumstances and attitudes that can keep anyone who has received the seed of the gospel message from bringing forth a goodly harvest.

I. Stony Ground, No Root

Some seed “fell on stony ground, where it had not much earth; and immediately it sprang up, because it had no depth of earth: but when the sun was up, it was scorched; and because it had no root, it withered away” (Mark 4:5–6).

Jesus explained that this describes those “who, when they have heard the word, immediately receive it with gladness,” but because they “have no root in themselves, … when affliction or persecution ariseth for the word’s sake, immediately they are offended” (Mark 4:16–17).

What causes hearers to “have no root in themselves”? This is the circumstance of new members who are merely converted to the missionaries or to the many attractive characteristics of the Church or to the many great fruits of Church membership. Not being rooted in the word, they can be scorched and wither away when opposition arises. But even those raised in the Church—long-term members—can slip into a condition where they have no root in themselves. I have known some of these—members without firm and lasting conversion to the gospel of Jesus Christ. If we are not rooted in the teachings of the gospel and regular in its practices, any one of us can develop a stony heart, which is stony ground for spiritual seeds.

Spiritual food is necessary for spiritual survival, especially in a world that is moving away from belief in God and the absolutes of right and wrong. In an age dominated by the Internet, which magnifies messages that menace faith, we must increase our exposure to spiritual truth in order to strengthen our faith and stay rooted in the gospel.

Young people, if that teaching seems too general, here is a specific example. If the emblems of the sacramentare being passed and you are texting or whispering or playing video games or doing anything else to deny yourself essential spiritual food, you are severing your spiritual roots and moving yourself toward stony ground. You are making yourself vulnerable to withering away when you encounter tribulation like isolation, intimidation, or ridicule. And that applies to adults also.

Another potential destroyer of spiritual roots—accelerated by current technology but not unique to it—is the keyhole view of the gospel or the Church. This limited view focuses on a particular doctrine or practice or perceived deficiency in a leader and ignores the grand panorama of the gospel plan and the personal and communal fruits of its harvest. President Gordon B. Hinckley gave a vivid description of one aspect of this keyhole view. He told a BYU audience about political commentators “aflame with indignation” at a then-recent news event. “With studied art they poured out the sour vinegar of invective and anger. … Surely,” he concluded, “this is the age and place of the gifted pickle sucker.”¹ In contrast, to be securely rooted in the gospel, we must be moderate and measured in criticism and seek always for the broader view of the majestic work of God.

II. Thorns: The Cares of This World and the Deceitfulness of Riches

Jesus taught that “some fell among thorns, and the thorns grew up, and choked it, and it yielded no fruit” (Mark 4:7). He explained that these are “such as hear the word, and the cares of this world, and the deceitfulness of riches, and the lusts of other things entering in, choke the word, and it becometh unfruitful” (Mark 4:18–19). This is surely a warning to be heeded by all of us.

I will speak first of the deceitfulness of riches. Wherever we are in our spiritual journey—whatever our state of conversion—we are all tempted by this. When attitudes or priorities are fixed on the acquisition, use, or possession of property, we call that materialism. So much has been said and written about materialism that little needs to be added here.² Those who believe in what has been called the theology of prosperity are suffering from the deceitfulness of riches. The possession of wealth or significant income is not a mark of heavenly favor, and their absence is not evidence of heavenly disfavor. When Jesus told a faithful follower that he could inherit eternal life if he would only give all that he had to the poor (see Mark 10:17–24), He was not identifying an evil in the possession of riches but an evil in that follower’s attitude toward them. As we are all aware, Jesus praised the good Samaritan, who used the same coinage to serve his fellowman that Judas used to betray his Savior. The root of all evil is not money but the love of money (see 1 Timothy 6:10).

The Book of Mormon tells of a time when the Church of God “began to fail in its progress” (Alma 4:10) because “the people of the church began to … set their hearts upon riches and upon the vain things of the world” (Alma 4:8). Whoever has an abundance of material things is in jeopardy of being spiritually “sedated” by riches and other things of the world.³ That is a suitable introduction to the next of the Savior’s teachings.

The most subtle thorns to choke out the effect of the gospel word in our lives are the worldly forces that Jesus called the “cares and riches and pleasures of this life” (Luke 8:14). These are too numerous to recite. Some examples will suffice.

On one occasion Jesus rebuked His chief Apostle, saying to Peter, “Thou art an offence unto me: for thou savourest not the things that be of God, but those that be of men” (Matthew 16:23; see also D&C 3:6–7; 58:39). Savoring the things of men means putting the cares of this world ahead of the things of God in our actions, our priorities, and our thinking.

We surrender to the “pleasures of this life” (1) when we are addicted, which impairs God’s precious gift of agency; (2) when we are beguiled by trivial distractions, which draw us away from things of eternal importance; and (3) when we have an entitlement mentality, which impairs the personal growth necessary to qualify us for our eternal destiny.

We are overcome by the “cares … of this life” when we are paralyzed by fear of the future, which hinders our going forward in faith, trusting in God and His promises. Twenty-five years ago my esteemed BYU teacher Hugh W. Nibley spoke of the dangers of surrendering to the cares of the world. He was asked in an interview whether world conditions and our duty to spread the gospel made it desirable to seek some way to “be accommodating of the world in what we do in the Church.”⁴

His reply: “That’s been the whole story of the Church, hasn’t it? You have to be willing to offend here, you have to be willing to take the risk. That’s where the faith comes in. … Our commitment is supposed to be a test, it’s supposed to be hard, it’s supposed to be impractical in the terms of this world.”⁵

This gospel priority was affirmed on the BYU campus just a few months ago by an esteemed Catholic leader, Charles J. Chaput, the archbishop of Philadelphia. Speaking of “concerns that the LDS and Catholic communities share,” such as “about marriage andfamily, the nature of our sexuality, the sanctity of human life, and the urgency of religious liberty,” he said this:

“I want to stress again the importance of really living what we claim to believe. That needs to be a priority—not just in our personal and family lives but in our churches, our political choices, our business dealings, our treatment of the poor; in other words, in everything we do.”

“Here’s why that’s important,” he continued. “Learn from the Catholic experience. We Catholics believe that our vocation is to be leaven in society. But there’s a fine line between being leaven in society, and being digestedby society.”⁶

The Savior’s warning against having the cares of this world choke out the word of God in our lives surely challenges us to keep our priorities fixed—our hearts set—on the commandments of God and the leadership of His Church.

The Savior’s examples could cause us to think of this parable as the parable of the soils. The suitability of the soil depends upon the heart of each one of us who is exposed to the gospel seed. In susceptibility to spiritual teachings, some hearts are hardened and unprepared, some hearts are stony from disuse, and some hearts are set upon the things of the world.

III. Fell into Good Ground and Brought Forth Fruit

The parable of the sower ends with the Savior’s description of the seed that “fell into good ground, and brought forth fruit” in various measures (Matthew 13:8). How can we prepare ourselves to be that good ground and to have that good harvest?

Jesus explained that “the good ground are they, which in an honest and good heart, having heard the word, keep it, and bring forth fruit with patience” (Luke 8:15). We have the seed of the gospel word. It is up to each of us to set the priorities and to do the things that make our soil good and our harvest plentiful. We must seek to be firmly rooted and converted to the gospel of Jesus Christ (see Colossians 2:6–7). We achieve this conversion by praying, by scripture reading, by serving, and by regularly partaking of the sacrament to always have His Spirit to be with us. We must also seek that mighty change of heart (see Alma 5:12–14) that replaces evil desires and selfish concerns with the love of God and the desire to serve Him and His children.

I testify of the truth of these things, and I testify of our Savior, Jesus Christ, whose teachings point the way and whose Atonement makes it all possible, in the name of Jesus Christ, amen.

1. Gordon B. Hinckley, “Let Not Your Heart Be Troubled” (Brigham Young University devotional, Oct. 29, 1974), 1; speeches.byu.edu.

2. See, for example, Dallin H. Oaks, “Materialism,” chapter 5 in Pure in Heart (1988), 73–87.

3. I am indebted to Elder Neal A. Maxwell for this memorable image (see “These Are Your Days,” Ensign,Oct. 2004, 26).

4. James P. Bell, in “Hugh Nibley, in Black and White,”BYU Today, May 1990, 37.

5. Hugh Nibley, in “Hugh Nibley, in Black and White,” 37–38.

6. Charles J. Chaput, “The Great Charter at 800: Why It Still Matters,” First Things, Jan. 23, 2015, firstthings.com/web-exclusives/2015/01/the-great-charter-at-800; see also Tad Walch, “At BYU, Catholic Archbishop Seeks Friends, Says U.S. Liberty Depends on Moral People,” Deseret News, Jan. 23, 2015, deseretnews.com/article/865620233/At-BYU-Catholic-archbishop-seeks-friends-says-US-liberty-depends-on-moral-people.html. Archbishop Chaput also said that “some of our best Catholic institutions have either lost or greatly softened their religious identity. … Brigham Young is an extraordinary university … because it’s a center of learning enriched by its religious identity. Never lose that” (“The Great Charter at 800”).

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Tuesday, May 5, 2015

Thee Lift Me and I’ll Lift Thee, and We’ll Ascend Together

I am convinced that a husband is never more attractive to his wife than
when he is serving in his God-given roles as a worthy priesthood holder
—most important in the home.

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We might test ourselves by asking a few questions. With a little adaptation, these questions can apply to most of us, whether we are married or single, whatever our home situation might be.

1.
When was the last time I sincerely praised my companion, either alone or in the presence of our children?
2.
When was the last time I thanked, expressed love for, or earnestly pleaded in faith for him or her in prayer?
3.
When was the last time I stopped myself from saying something I knew could be hurtful?
4.
When was the last time I apologized and humbly asked for forgiveness—without adding the words “but if only you had” or “but if only you hadn’t”?
5.
When was the last time I chose to be happy rather than demanding to be “right”?

Monday, May 4, 2015

The Plan of Happiness

Nowhere is the generosity and mercy of God

more manifest than in repentance.

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"I am so grateful for the blessings of the Lord Jesus Christ, for the power of procreation, for the power of redemption, for the Atonement—the Atonement which can wash clean every stain no matter how difficult or how long or how many times repeated. The Atonement can put you free again to move forward, cleanly and worthily, to pursue that path that you have chosen in life."

--Boyd K. Packer